Joe Alwyn was thrusted into the spotlight when he started dating Taylor Swift back in 2016.

The couple dated for six years before breaking up in early 2023, and a year after his breakup with the pop star, Joe, in an interview with PEOPLE, shares that he intentionally kept their relationship private.

When friends learned that he was dating Taylor, 34, many were shocked with their relationship, says the source, adding, “but he wasn’t showing off in some way.”

Despite the intense public interest in the relationship, Joe wanted the romance to remain “his own personal story,” says the source.

On her latest body of work, Swift sings about feeling caged and lonely amid a falling romance. Her song ‘So Long, London’ seems to be inspired by her breakup with Joe. “And I’m pissed off you let me give you all that youth for free.”

On ‘Fresh Out the Slammer’, the pop star further shares how isolated she felt: “Another summer taking cover / Rolling thunder, he don’t understand me / Splintered back in winter / Silent dinner, bitter he was with her in dreams.”

Over the course of six years of their relationship, both Taylor and Joe remained away from the public eye, often deflecting about engagement rumors.